Wedding Planning Stage One

So now you are engaged and your are so anxious to put your dreams into reality. You are down to the Wedding Planning. But wait, don't go too fast. Those years of dreaming were just that, a dream. Now here today, your are down to reality and the real stuff. The castle with the carriage ride are just not affordable or real. So let's deal with what you can afford to do for your wedding event. What people in the wedding industry talk and write about over and over again...Budget. Small word but oh with such big meaning. And believe me they aren't talking and writing for nothing. They are talking and writing from experience because they have seen couples go into debt way over their heads to accomplish that unattainable wedding dream. It is so important to Be Realistic when it comes to planning your wedding. Talk with your fiancee and start with a dollar figure that you both can handle. If parents are involved with paying for the wedding make sure you know just how much they are going to pay for in dollars. There are so many ways of accomplishing "The Look" that you want today with DYI's or through help on Pintrest. Also stay within your relationship and your life interest. If you are campers, hikers, boaters and enjoy the outdoors don't go looking for a big hotel venue downtown. Look for something more meaningful to you both. Rent a camp ground, a state park or a boat club for the wedding. Have the wedding ceremony under the trees maybe at dusk with lite candle jars hanging from the trees. Maybe at a shelter in the state park or on the grounds of the yacht club. Get wedding ideas online and from a ton of books. Talk to your Wedding Officiant and include different traditions that will suit the location of your wedding ceremony. As a wedding tradition include "Planting a Tree", or release butterflies or flying Chinese lanterns . If your interests are more on the intellectual side rent a college hall that has something that you both love, telescopes, library, etc. People who know you will appreciate the fact that you are celebrating in a place that is more YOU than the popular wedding venue downtown that isn't YOU at all. If you start with a $ value, include your personal interest and your relationship you stand a much better chance of having a wedding that everyone, including yourselves, will be happy with the outcome. Good Luck!

Should We or Should We Not?

Congrats, Your engaged and your starting your quest of Wedding Planning. You have a list of things that should be done and by the exact date that it should be accomplished. Among that list might be the phrase...Writing your own wedding vows. This idea makes one or both of you nervous. Just remember that you have gone through a lot of wishing & dreaming & planning of the wedding now you are down to planning the Wedding Ceremony. Don't cheat yourselves by thinking that you should just repeat words after your minister. Take the time to personalize your Wedding Ceremony by writing personal vows to each other. If you ever planned on making an effort in your marriage here is your opportunity to show it and prove it. You literately make your ceremony much more personal by writing wedding vows and saying them to each other rather than just words repeated after your minister. Remember you don't have to memorize your wedding vows. The words can be printed out on a nice clean piece of paper for you to read from during the ceremony. If you both still believe that you are too nervous to stand up there and say the words why not include something personal in the ceremony about your relationship. This will let people know something personal about you both. Maybe in the ceremony introduction your Minister might talk about how you meet, how he proposed, or any other personal information about the two of you. Again you are adding some personal touches to your ceremony that people will remember and feel privileged that you shared something so personal about yourselves and or your relationship. Talk to your minister about personalizing your wedding ceremony and be informed about your options. Good Luck!